Emotional Intelligence as Women, Wives, Moms and Business Owners

Updated: Apr 8, 2021

In recent years we have seen a huge level of growth in the need and request for emotional intelligence from businesses for their employees.

So what is emotional Intelligence? It is defined as your ability to understand and manage the emotions of others as well as your own.


"The greatest thing about emotional intelligence is that it has endless applications. It can be used to help inspire higher performance, develop new products and services, and improve personal development opportunities. It can also be used to prevent burnout, as people who learn how to manage their emotions are often less overwhelmed and benefit from a better work-life balance" (https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2020/01/02/how-to-identify-and-practice-emotional-intelligence-in-the-workplace/?sh=8b827776c2e3 )


There are five categories of emotional intelligence:

  1. Self Awareness

  2. Self Regulation

  3. Motivation

  4. Empathy

  5. Social Skills

Below are how we can utilize each area of emotional intelligence to support us across our entire lives. Through motherhood, relationships and work.


  1. Self Awareness:

  • Identify your emotions and analyze your reactions.

  • Try to find out what your emotional triggers are. Recognize emotional reactions as soon as it happens. Communicate these triggers with those around you!

  • Part of self-awareness is self-confidence. You need to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses so you can be confident in your abilities. You can use things such as enneagrams, personality tests, or competency exams to better understand your own strengths and weaknesses and figure out how to use them


2. Self Regulation

  • Practice control over your emotions and recognize impulses. While it’s perfectly normal to feel negative emotions like anger or fear, you need to limit the time you allow yourself to feel them.

  • Take a proactive approach to managing your emotions by practicing techniques that will reduce or eliminate these emotions. One way I do this is by coming up with a recovery plan.

  • Having a recovery plan is such an important part of being an entrepreneur, mom and wife. When the days are good, they are great. But when they are bad, they are really bad. You cannot escape the bad days so it is important to have a plan to recover from them. My plan includes reading some of my favorite books, a warm bubble bath and candles, and my favorite snack. This helps me to get back into a good mental space and hit the ground running again!

  • Your ability to take responsibility for your own actions. Take ownership of your work and be proactive.

3. Motivation

  • Work to become intrinsically motivated rather than intrinsically. Know why these things were important for you.

  • Strive to improve yourself by setting concrete goals. You should be able to tell what your desired outcomes are out of these goals. Create vision boards or a daily goal reminder. This can be achieved through journaling, etc.

  • Commit to these goals and take action. Find small ways you can work towards it daily.

  • See things for what they are and look for the good in any situation

4. Empathy

  • Empathy is temporarily putting your opinions aside and try to see things from another person’s perspective.

  • Practice tolerance and keep an open mind that focuses on building relationships, instead of proving yourself right to get your way.

  • This is the key for solving any conflict. Work to see it from the others side of things. Fight with your partner? Misunderstanding at work? All can be made much better if we come from a place of understanding rather than self defense.

5. Social Skills

  • Listen before your communicate. Listening is different than just hearing.

  • Hear the words and the emotions behind what was communicated to you, then respond with honesty and sensitivity.

  • Treat everyone with compassion to build trust.

A great way to learn more about your emotional intelligence and areas we can work on is by taking this test: https://globalleadershipfoundation.com/geit/eitest.html


Other ways we can learn to be more in tune with our own emotional needs and the needs of our children, partners, team members or leaders:

- How am I feeling today?

- How did you react to one of those feelings today?

- What motivates you?

- How has someone else’s emotions affected you today?



What are you doing today to help increase your emotional intelligence!