Raise your hand if you struggle with confidence and self worth!
Raise your hand if you use self deprecation!
Raise your hand if you have ever felt less than _(enter name)___.
Raise your hand if you have ever felt unworthy of love, success, etc.
If you raised your hand to any of these. You are not alone.
7 in 10 girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with family and friends.
– Real Girls, Real Pressure: National Report on the State of Self-Esteem, Dove Self-Esteem Fund
A study done at Cornell University found that men overestimate their abilities and performance, while women underestimate both. In fact, their actual performance does not differ in quality or quantity. We call this imposter syndrome.
This the idea that we don't deserve the things we have received, no matter how hard you have worked to get there. This leads us to constant reevaluation of our own abilities. We let this stop us from pursuing growth opportunities; whether applying for new jobs when we don't meet every single qualification, lowballing yourself on salary expectations, or choosing not to start a business..
““The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” – Blake Lively
So how can we shift our own personal mindsets towards confidence, learn to listen to our own intuitions and develop our own sense of worth? Below I will give you my top five tips!
1. Find things you are good at and use them to your advantage. We all differ in our personal strengths and abilities. You can use them in productive and meaningful ways. Find some of your key skills and things you enjoy and use is to shape your career, hobbies, etc.
2. Define your own personal style. Finding clothing, makeup, etc that make you feel good on the outside, also helps you feel good on the inside It is so important to feel comfortable in your own skin. Learn to love your body and you will learn to love yourself.
3. Mindset: You ever heard the saying, "Fake it until you make it"? Well in this case its more like "Think it until you Feel it." Our mind is a super powerful tool, and we should use it to our advantage. There are ways that we can trick our mind into teaching ourselves confidence. Personally, I use daily affirmations, journaling and a gratitude practice.
| “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” – Brene Brown
4. Speak Kindly about yourself and others. I hate self deprecating humor. I also hate people who speak down on others. The best way to be lifted up is by lifting others up. There is more than enough room for all of us. We should work to support those around us and in return we will see that support returned.
5. Surround yourself with positive role models. I heard this quote once that if you look around and find that you are the smartest person in the room, you need to find a new room. Same idea here. If you are the most confident woman in the room, find a new room. We are made up of a combination of the 5 people we spend the most time with so make sure those people exude the qualities you wish you had. Confident Queens stick together.
We are living in the age of the confident woman. More and more we get to see influencers and models of all shapes, sizes, and skins colors. We see more women showing up as leads in movies, become bestselling authors and CEO's of massive companies. I mean my heck we finally have a female vice president of the United States!!! Lets join those ranks while supporting our sisters in their rise as well.
You are a Queen Baby! Put on your Crown and Act Like It!
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